Unleashing True Potential: Cultivating Inner Skills for External Success

If you want to get fit, you can hire a personal trainer. They might share with you their knowledge of nutrition. Or, the correct form to use while doing particular exercises. If you want to learn how to play the piano, it’s relatively easy to find a good teacher these days, especially now with the Internet. If you want to learn how to improve your relationships, you can read books, watch YouTube videos, ask ChatGPT.

The point is, finding ways to develop these “external skills” is relatively easy in this day and age. We can take classes. Get certifications. There’s always Google.

But that’s only part of the equation. Even if we have a desire or aspiration for something - that doesn’t mean we have the inner resources or capacity to see it through.

What are the inner mechanics of being able to stick to a new, healthier diet? How can we show up consistently to our piano lessons and to our at-home practice sessions in between lessons? What’s at play in not just gaining knowledge about attachment theory, for example, but actually being able to put that knowledge into practice in order to cultivate a more satisfying relationship with increased intimacy and vitality?

It’s the difference between someone who aspires to get fit - and someone who gets fit. It’s the difference between the person who dreams of being able to play the piano - and the person who learns to play the piano.

I’ve always been fascinated by the difference between people who wake up inspired everyday and actively pursues their ideas and aspirations, achieves their goals and realizes their vision. And, those who may share the same desires and aspirations but fail to bridge the gap between where they are and where they want to go, who they want to be, or what they want to achieve.

And so, my coaching and programs have revolved around this very important distinction. The difference lies in how effectively we can cultivate our inner mental, emotional, and physical capacity and leverage - in order to get ourselves to do the things we need or want to do. And to truly show up for ourselves and have access to a more congruent and fulfilling life.

Just like a musician has to practice in order to become a better musician. Or an athlete has to train in order to become a better athlete. Training these inner skills will take some dedication over time to develop. But it is in training these inner skills that we can unleash the true potential of these external skills in our lives.