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The Recipe for Transformation
You know, after years of working with people—students, clients—who are trying to make real, lasting change, I’ve noticed a pattern. There’s this kind of recipe for transformation that keeps showing up, no matter who you are or what you’re working on.
It’s not some fancy theory or complicated process. It’s just the stuff that actually works in real life.
Today, I want to share that with you. Think of it like a warm conversation about what I’ve seen help people get unstuck, grow, and re…
How the Stories You Tell Yourself Shape Everything
Ever notice how just one little thing—a tone of voice or a quick text—can mess with your whole mood?
Like, you get a short “okay” from someone, and suddenly you’re wondering, “Did I do something wrong? Are they mad at me?”
That’s what we’re diving into today: how the way we talk to ourselves—and the stories we tell—shape how we feel and show up in the world.
Here’s the thing: if you’re not paying attention to those inner conversations, they can run the show without you even realizing it.
S…
Why It’s So Easy to Intellectualize Your Emotions (and Why That Keeps You Stuck)
Have you ever found yourself knowing exactly why you feel a certain way—but no matter how much you think about it, you just can’t seem to shift it?
Like, you’ve told yourself all the reasons why you’re angry, sad, or anxious—but that feeling still sticks around?
Maybe you’ve even read about it, journaled about it, or talked it through with a friend—yet that same feeling keeps showing up in different situations.
That’s what we’re diving into today.
What does it actually mean to intelle…
What is a Transformational Relationship?
In this blog post, I want to dive into something that shows up in all of our lives—no matter what stage we’re at: What is a transformational relationship, really?
Ever notice how the same emotional patterns keep popping up in your relationships—family, friends, romantic partners, or even at work? Maybe you’ve felt stuck in that loop of frustration, disappointment, or disconnection, even when you’re doing all the right things on the outside.
Today, I want to unpack what a transformational rel…
What is a Transactional Relationship?
In this blog post, I want to explore something that touches all of us at some point—how we relate to others.
Have you ever felt like every time you give in a relationship, you’re silently keeping score? Or like there’s an unspoken expectation that if you show up for them, they’ll show up for you?
That’s what we call a transactional relationship—and today, we’re going to unpack what that really means, and how it shapes our emotional life, and how we can begin to shift it from the inside …
Before You Quit, Move, or Start Over…Ask Yourself This
In this blog post, I want to explore something most people overlook when they’re trying to change their life.
It’s that moment right before we make the big decision—whether it’s leaving the relationship, quitting the job, launching the new chapter, or choosing a different way of showing up in an old situation.
Because here’s the truth:
Most people move too fast on the outside…
before they’ve made the shift on the inside.
And if the nervous system hasn’t gone first?
The outer change…
Why You Keep Saying Yes When You Mean No (And What It’s Really Costing You)
Let’s talk about something that might hit a little close to home.
You’re the one who keeps things calm.
The one who smooths it over.
The one who makes sure everyone else is okay.
You’re probably kind. Considerate. Emotionally intelligent.
People trust you. They lean on you.
But here’s the part most people don’t see:
Sometimes, being the “nice one” isn’t actually care.
It’s just what you learned to do…
to avoid what you didn’t know how to feel.
Let’s slow that down together.
B…
This Is Where Most People Quit
In this blog post, I want to explore a question we all hear at some point on the path of growth.
“Do you enjoy it?”
It sounds innocent.
It sounds curious.
Sometimes it even sounds supportive.
But for someone on a path of vision, discipline, and deep inner work…
that question can become a trap.
Because here’s the truth:
If I only did what I currently enjoyed…
I’d never become the version of myself capable of living the life I actually want.
The Question That Sounds Wise…But Isn’t
…What if the answer isn’t more healing?
In this blog post, I want to talk about something I see a lot—especially in people who are deeply committed to growth.
You’ve done therapy. You’ve journaled. You’ve sat with the hard stuff. You’ve read the books and taken the courses.
And still…something feels stuck.
You keep running into the same internal wall—same trigger, same spiral, same pattern.
And if you’re like a lot of people I work with, you might be wondering:
“Do I really have to go all the way back?
Do I have to keep di…
You’re Not Burned Out—Your System’s Just Trained for Survival
You wake up, already tired.
The day hasn't even started, and part of you is counting the hours until it's over.
You're still doing your job. Still showing up. From the outside, nothing’s wrong. But something feels…off.
You’re not falling apart. But you’re also not bouncing back.
So if you do what we’ve all learned to do:
You google the symptoms. You call it “burnout.”
And that feels true…but also not quite.
Because some days, you do have energy. You even enjoy parts of your life.…