Breaking the Chains of Unhelpful Emotional Patterns


Imagine this scenario: you're deeply committed to leading a wholesome, healthy life. Your diet consists of nutritious meals, your daily routine includes a healthy dose of exercise, and you ensure your sleep is never compromised. You have quit indulging in harmful habits and are quite punctual with your health check-ups. Yet, there exists this persistent worry about your health, despite doing everything possible to ensure it.

This is an excellent demonstration of how our emotions can play havoc on us. Sometimes, even when we've ticked all the boxes for maintaining good health, our minds can bewilder us with distressing thoughts. Questions like, "What if I suddenly fall ill? What if I suffer an injury? What if I age ungracefully?" These nagging thoughts can cause undue stress and push us to make choices that are not congruent with our health goals.

This emotional conundrum isn't limited to health alone; it manifests in different facets of our lives, including our relationships and careers. For instance, if our early relationships were filled with drama, we might unconsciously recreate similar scenarios in our adult relationships, associating love with struggle. Similarly, past hurt might make us guarded in future relationships, even when there's no apparent danger.


In the professional sphere, if we've cultivated the belief that work is a drag and devoid of joy, we might find ourselves perpetually stressed and dissatisfied, despite our achievements. This perspective might make us turn down exciting opportunities, reducing work to a burdensome chore instead of a path to fulfillment.

The common denominator in all these scenarios is the presence of fear and anxiety-driven patterns. The silver lining, however, is that these patterns aren't fixed and can be modified. The initial step towards this transformation is acknowledging that these patterns are learned behaviors and not intrinsic, implying they can be unlearned and replaced with healthier thought processes.

Our brains are designed to recognize patterns as they enable us to forecast events and protect us. But not all patterns benefit us; some induce constant stress and anxiety, indicating the need for a cognitive rewiring to identify these harmful patterns and replace them with healthier ones.


If worries about your health, career, or relationships plague you, simple practices like mindfulness and journaling can offer significant relief. Mindfulness allows you to perceive your fears objectively and facilitates calmness during stress. Journaling, on the other hand, gives you a space to introspect about your thoughts and feelings and realign them with your core values and aspirations.

Consider relationships for instance. These practices can enhance your communication skills, encouraging you to share your fears and desires and set definitive boundaries. This can initiate a transformative process in your relationship dynamics.

Remember, you don't have to tread this journey solo. My Inner Foundation Series program is designed to assist you through these practices, helping you recognize your patterns and formulate healthier, more fulfilling ones.

While these techniques can bring about immediate changes, the real magic unfolds over time. With persistent practice, you'll witness significant changes in your behavior and life experiences. Shifting these deeply ingrained patterns isn't a cakewalk; it requires self-exploration, courage, and consistency. However, if you're ready to take up the challenge, you can liberate yourself from these restrictive patterns and carve a life that genuinely mirrors your dreams and values.