The Mind's Magnetism: How Energy Flows Where Attention Goes


We've all heard the advice to stay positive, but let's be real—sometimes, that's easier said than done. Our brains have this funny habit of holding onto the not-so-great stuff. What’s even crazier? By constantly thinking about what we don’t want, we might be inviting more of it into our lives.

Driving & Target Fixation

Take driving for instance. Have you ever found yourself fixated on the headlights of an oncoming car, thinking you want to avoid it? You might’ve noticed that, strangely, you start drifting towards it. This is called "target fixation." It happens when we focus so hard on something, we end up heading right towards it. And it’s not just on the road; this can happen in other parts of life too. When we put all our energy into avoiding something, we might actually be pulling it closer.

Energy & Focus

There’s a saying that goes, "Energy flows where attention goes." This means that what we focus on, we give power to. If we spend all our time thinking about the things we don’t want, we’re actually feeding into them.

Relationships & Choices

Let's talk relationships. How many times have we listed out all the traits we don’t want in a partner? But then, find ourselves in relationships with people who have those exact traits? It’s because we're so focused on what we don’t want, we end up choosing it again and again.


Changing Our Focus

Albert Einstein once said, "No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it." This means to change our situation, we need to change our focus. If we want good things to happen, we need to start focusing on the good and not just what we want to avoid.

Letting Go & Moving Forward

Sometimes, the best thing we can do is let go. Trying to control everything based on our past can actually recreate those past experiences. Letting go doesn’t mean giving up; it means trusting the process and being open to surprises. It means moving forward, not being stuck in the past.


Life is unpredictable. But by focusing on what we want and trusting the journey, we open ourselves up to new opportunities. Where we choose to put our attention today really does shape our future.