The Hidden Influence of Triggers


Our environment is teeming with triggers that silently activate certain patterns within us, often without our conscious awareness. The concept of a "trigger" and its ability to set off our internal patterns is something many of us are unfamiliar with. Recognizing when an inner pattern has been triggered is not a common skill, yet it's crucial for understanding ourselves and our reactions, especially in emotionally charged situations.

Why is this understanding so vital? Reflect on moments of anger, for instance, when a family member or significant other becomes the trigger. Many of us have experienced situations where those closest to us have sparked feelings of anger or disappointment, whether through an argument or a misunderstanding. These emotions, once activated, guide our thoughts into very specific channels, influenced by the prevailing feelings of anger and disappointment.

If we remain unaware that this pattern of feeling angry or disappointed has been activated, we fail to see how it's shaping our thought processes. This lack of awareness can lead us to thoughts such as, “My partner doesn’t appreciate me,” or “My significant other always takes me for granted.” This mindset, unfortunately, doesn't stay confined to the person who triggered it. For example, being triggered by someone at work can carry over into how we interact with our partner or family at home, maintaining the active pattern and influencing our thoughts and behaviors towards them as well.




Suddenly, the focus shifts from the initial trigger, like a boss, to our spouse, children, or friends. We begin to perceive them through the lens of our triggered emotions, thinking they don't appreciate us or respect us, reinforcing the cycle of disappointment and misunderstanding. It's a startling realization that someone we love and share the most intimate parts of our lives with can trigger deep-seated patterns within us, often without any of us realizing it.

Consider the early stages of a romantic relationship, filled with gratitude and love, where thoughts are often, “I'm so thankful for them,” guiding your perceptions and interactions. But when something they do acts as a trigger, you might find yourself feeling let down, shifting your entire perspective on the relationship without recognizing that you've been triggered.


This shift from love-based states to fear-based emotions, if not addressed, can nudge a relationship towards its downfall. However, there is hope with the tools and awareness we can develop. By recognizing when we're triggered and consciously choosing to focus on love, gratitude, and appreciation, we can shift the direction of our thoughts and emotions, nurturing a different internal pattern that positively impacts all of our relationships.

Applying this mindset shift can also extend to your professional life, emphasizing the power of self-awareness and conscious choice in transforming our interactions and experiences, no matter the setting. By aligning our mental and emotional operations with our aspirations and vision, we pave the way for these to manifest in our lives, demonstrating the transformative power of understanding and redirecting our emotional triggers.