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Why Patience Isn't Always a Virtue
Have you ever found yourself stuck in traffic, feeling the frustration build as you inch forward at a snail's pace? Or maybe you've waited for weeks, months, or even years for a promotion at work that never seems to come? These situations test our patience, and often, we're told that patience is a virtue. But have you ever wondered why that is, or if it's always true?
Most people define patience as the ability to endure delays, difficulties, or suffering without getting angry or upset. It’s…
Subconscious Attraction to Chaos Explained
Have you ever wondered why some people seem to seek out or even thrive in chaos, even when it seems counterintuitive? It’s as if their life is a magnet for chaos. If you’ve ever found yourself in a similar situation or know someone who has, it might be more than just coincidence or bad luck.
Imagine a person who, as a child, experienced a lot of unpredictability. Maybe they grew up in an environment where stability was a rare luxury. Perhaps there was a lack of emotional security, with ea…
Compartmentalization Explained: Is It Helping or Hurting Your Wellbeing?
Picture this: You're in the middle of a hectic workday, juggling multiple tasks and feeling overwhelmed by the endless stream of responsibilities. Amidst this chaos, you receive an urgent call from a family member needing your immediate help. In that moment, your mind scrambles to compartmentalize the stress from work, the concern for your family, and the need to remain level-headed and effective through it all. Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you had to mentally "box" diff…
Stop Waiting for Perfect Conditions
Have you ever found yourself saying, “I’ll do that when…”? Maybe it’s “I’ll enter a relationship when my finances are in order,” or “I’ll start exercising once I lose some weight.” We often wait for the perfect conditions before taking action, but this approach rarely works out. More often than not, we end up not doing it at all, staying stuck in a loop of inaction, waiting for the perfect moment that never arrives.
Think about it. How many times have you delayed something important to yo…
How Self-Trust Reflects in Our Relationships
Have you ever felt conflicted about trusting someone? One moment, you’re ready to open up and connect, but the next, you find yourself pulling back, feeling uncertain. It’s a common experience, one that many of us share.
What’s fascinating is that our ability to trust others is actually a reflection of how much we trust ourselves. When we have self-trust, it becomes easier to extend that trust to others. So, how do we build this self-trust? Through practice and direct experience.
Think a…
Why Self-Help Alone Won't Transform Your Life
Have you ever noticed how, despite consuming a ton of self-help books, watching countless YouTube videos, and listening to numerous podcasts, your life doesn't seem to change all that much? You gather a wealth of information, you gain new perspectives, and yet, something crucial seems to be missing. The truth is, intellectual understanding alone doesn’t lead to transformation.
For example, you can read about swimming all day, study about all the different strokes, understand the science beh…
People-Pleasing vs. Interdependence (5 Differences)
In this blog post, we're going to explore a topic that's super important but often misunderstood: the difference between people-pleasing and healthy interdependence with others. Understanding this distinction can transform your relationships and lead to a more fulfilling, balanced life.
What is People-Pleasing?
People-pleasing is a behavior pattern where someone goes out of their way to satisfy others, often at their own expense. It stems from a deep-seated need for approval and acceptance…
Why Starting and Finishing Tasks is Challenging for You
Do you ever find yourself struggling with initiation and follow-through skills? You might set goals with the best intentions but find it challenging to start, let alone finish them. This experience is more common than you think, and it’s rooted deeply in our inner emotional and thought patterns.
Initiation and follow-through are closely connected, even though they might seem like separate skills. The ability to start something new often depends on how secure and motivated we feel. If we s…
Boundaries Rooted in Inner Congruence and Vision
The Pitfalls of Reactive Boundaries
Reactive boundaries, built like shields or fortresses, rely on a constant state of vigilance. They require you to be perpetually on guard, ready to defend against any perceived threat. This approach can lead to heightened stress and anxiety because your sense of security is dependent upon keeping external factors in check. It creates a scenario where your inner state is dictated by the actions and behaviors of others, leaving you in a reactive mode, alw…
Why Momentum Can Be a Good Thing (Even If It’s Scary)
In today's video, we're going to explore a topic that might feel a bit intimidating for some people at first, but trust me, it's something we all need to embrace: momentum. Now, momentum can feel a bit overwhelming for a lot of people, but I hope you'll see why it's actually a good thing to welcome into your life.
So, what exactly is momentum? Simply put, momentum is the result of our sustained focus. When we keep our attention on something, whether it's a goal, a milestone, or a vision, …