Have you ever heard of the "90-second rule" in the realm of emotions? This principle, highlighted by Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, a renowned brain scientist, in her book "My Stroke of Insight," uncovers a profound understanding of how we experience and manage our emotions.

Unpacking the 90-Second Rule

When an event occurs that stirs a certain emotion within you, your body responds by releasing chemicals that induce this particular feeling. But the fascinating fact is, your body expels these c…

Think about dealing with emotions not as a deep dive into the past, but more as recognizing when little bits of our past sneak into our current thoughts, behaviors, and feelings. This may sound like a small difference, but it can change the way we handle our emotions in a big way.

When we talk about our feelings, we're not supposed to just keep going back to what's happened before, always looking through old memories. We can easily get stuck in our past, dissecting each event hoping to …

Picture this: you're at that 'certain age', maybe 'middle-aged', pondering a career shift, thinking about dating again, or seriously contemplating a complete overhaul of your health and fitness due to a recent health scare. But then you shrug and think to yourself, "I'm too old for this."

This is something I hear often since I work with a lot of clients in their 40s, 50s, and even 60s. Many have built successful careers in the corporate world or academia. Some have become newly single a…

Human experience is an intricate fusion of physical and emotional sensations. They can evoke a rush of feelings at a beautiful melody or make our heart race in a scary situation. This happens because our physical and emotional sensations are entwined in our nervous system. However, the connection isn't always beneficial.

The complex network of our nervous system houses both physical and emotional sensations. Emotions, although abstract, often manifest themselves physically in our bodies…

Relationships are fascinating. They can be beautiful, challenging, uplifting, and sometimes, disheartening. At the heart of all relationships, there's a dance - a subtle, unconscious interplay of emotional patterns. To understand and transform these patterns is to unlock the key to healthy, fulfilling relationships.

Much like a magnetic force, we pull towards us what we internally resonate with. If we regularly experience anger or resentment in our close relationships, it's likely that …

Have you ever wondered why our relationships hold such immense power over us? It's because they serve as mirrors, reflecting what's unfolding within us. Whether it's the bond we share with a friend, partner, parent, child, or even encounters with strangers, every interaction becomes a chance for self-discovery.⁣

Think about it: the emotions stirred up by the people in our lives are not caused solely by their actions or words. They simply act as catalysts, awakening the inner emotions and e…

If you want to get fit, you can hire a personal trainer. They might share with you their knowledge of nutrition. Or, the correct form to use while doing particular exercises. If you want to learn how to play the piano, it’s relatively easy to find a good teacher these days, especially now with the Internet. If you want to learn how to improve your relationships, you can read books, watch YouTube videos, ask ChatGPT.

The point is, finding ways to develop these “external skills” is relativel…

Emotions, an integral part of the human experience, often bring discomfort and challenges. In an attempt to evade these uncomfortable feelings, we sometimes rely on intellectualizing emotions, using our minds as shields. However, this approach can hinder personal growth and understanding.

Intellectualizing emotions involves excessive analysis and rationalization, detaching us from the raw experience. By relying solely on cognitive processes, we create a mental distance that inhibits genuine…

Exploring focus in depth is important. Beth Raps and Mike Wang have long experience with focus in practice and share their thoughts as colleagues who coach each other into going deeper in life and work. Image: Jeremy Bishop

Beth G. Raps, PhD is the founder of RAISING CLARITY, and helps people reclaim our resources of time, money, focus, and mindset to claim our calling and our abundance.



Mike Wang helps people learn to develop practical skills and tools to dissolve the inner patterns th…

Each of us experiences our own version of reality. While there are objective facts about the world, such as: fall comes before winter and night comes after day - it is our life experiences that shape how we perceive and interpret those facts.

For example, one person might look forward to the coming of winter - since it’s an opportunity to finally go skiing, something that they love to do. While another person might dread winter because they hate the cold weather - and the roads are always …