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What is a Transformational Relationship?
In this blog post, I want to dive into something that shows up in all of our lives—no matter what stage we’re at: What is a transformational relationship, really?
Ever notice how the same emotional patterns keep popping up in your relationships—family, friends, romantic partners, or even at work? Maybe you’ve felt stuck in that loop of frustration, disappointment, or disconnection, even when you’re doing all the right things on the outside.
Today, I want to unpack what a transformational rel…
What is a Transactional Relationship?
In this blog post, I want to explore something that touches all of us at some point—how we relate to others.
Have you ever felt like every time you give in a relationship, you’re silently keeping score? Or like there’s an unspoken expectation that if you show up for them, they’ll show up for you?
That’s what we call a transactional relationship—and today, we’re going to unpack what that really means, and how it shapes our emotional life, and how we can begin to shift it from the inside …
Before You Quit, Move, or Start Over…Ask Yourself This
In this blog post, I want to explore something most people overlook when they’re trying to change their life.
It’s that moment right before we make the big decision—whether it’s leaving the relationship, quitting the job, launching the new chapter, or choosing a different way of showing up in an old situation.
Because here’s the truth:
Most people move too fast on the outside…
before they’ve made the shift on the inside.
And if the nervous system hasn’t gone first?
The outer change…
Why You Keep Saying Yes When You Mean No (And What It’s Really Costing You)
Let’s talk about something that might hit a little close to home.
You’re the one who keeps things calm.
The one who smooths it over.
The one who makes sure everyone else is okay.
You’re probably kind. Considerate. Emotionally intelligent.
People trust you. They lean on you.
But here’s the part most people don’t see:
Sometimes, being the “nice one” isn’t actually care.
It’s just what you learned to do…
to avoid what you didn’t know how to feel.
Let’s slow that down together.
B…
This Is Where Most People Quit
In this blog post, I want to explore a question we all hear at some point on the path of growth.
“Do you enjoy it?”
It sounds innocent.
It sounds curious.
Sometimes it even sounds supportive.
But for someone on a path of vision, discipline, and deep inner work…
that question can become a trap.
Because here’s the truth:
If I only did what I currently enjoyed…
I’d never become the version of myself capable of living the life I actually want.
The Question That Sounds Wise…But Isn’t
…What if the answer isn’t more healing?
In this blog post, I want to talk about something I see a lot—especially in people who are deeply committed to growth.
You’ve done therapy. You’ve journaled. You’ve sat with the hard stuff. You’ve read the books and taken the courses.
And still…something feels stuck.
You keep running into the same internal wall—same trigger, same spiral, same pattern.
And if you’re like a lot of people I work with, you might be wondering:
“Do I really have to go all the way back?
Do I have to keep di…
You’re Not Burned Out—Your System’s Just Trained for Survival
You wake up, already tired.
The day hasn't even started, and part of you is counting the hours until it's over.
You're still doing your job. Still showing up. From the outside, nothing’s wrong. But something feels…off.
You’re not falling apart. But you’re also not bouncing back.
So if you do what we’ve all learned to do:
You google the symptoms. You call it “burnout.”
And that feels true…but also not quite.
Because some days, you do have energy. You even enjoy parts of your life.…
“I got what I wanted…so why don’t I feel better?”
Most of us fall into this trap without realizing it:
We think peace is what happens after everything lines up.
After the job offer. After the argument resolves. After the to-do list is done. After we fix the thing that’s currently bothering us.
But what if peace actually has nothing to do with things being “fixed”?
What if peace is a way of seeing—not a reward for getting life perfect?
I’ve seen this over and over with clients who are extremely capable. Driven. Organized. They buil…
How to Recognize Emotional Avoidance Disguised as Critique
You ever hear a new idea or watch someone do something bold—and instantly, your brain jumps in with: “That won’t work.” “They’ve got it easier than I do.” “They’re just naturally confident.” “I’m not like that.”
Or maybe it’s subtler. You start a course, sit in a workshop, or watch someone speak with clarity and heart. And something stirs in you—something real. But before you even realize what’s happening, the critique kicks in. “It’s too basic.” “Too intense.” “Not scientific enough.” “Too…
Beyond the 5 Love Languages
"Do you use the 5 Love Languages in your coaching?"
I get this question pretty often.
And if you’ve ever tried to “speak” someone’s love language but still felt distant…or even frustrated, you know why this comes up.
You did everything right. You gave the words, the time, the touch, the gifts.
And yet... something was still missing.
That’s because love languages explain how we prefer to give and receive love — but they don’t explain why those preferences exist, or what’s really running u…