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The Discomfort You Feel After Making a Decision Is the Training Opportunity
You think the hard part is making a decision.
But for most people?
The discomfort starts after the decision is made.
And what you do in that discomfort—you're training that.
If you’ve ever made a decision and immediately started second-guessing it...
If you’ve felt the urge to keep revisiting it, replaying it, running every “what if”...
You’re not alone.
But that loop isn’t neutral—and it’s not just about the choice.
It’s about the emotional state you’re practicing.
Decision-Making …
What You Repeat Emotionally Is What You’re Living Physically
We’re already halfway through the year.
That went fast, didn’t it?
But here’s the thing—fast or slow, time isn’t waiting.
And whether you act or not, you’re still training something.
Let’s talk about the reality we often overlook:
Even when you’re “pausing,” “waiting,” or “not ready yet”—you’re still creating results.
They just might not be the ones you want.
Inaction Isn’t Neutral—It’s a Pattern
Inaction isn’t neutral.
It feels like a pause.
But it’s actually a reinfor…
When “Doing the Work” Becomes the Pattern
Have you ever had one of those moments where you journal something out…
feel a little clearer… maybe even proud of the work you’re doing—
Only to find that a few days later,
you’re in the exact same emotional loop?
It’s like part of you thought, “I handled this.”
But another part? Still right there, gripping tight.
If you’ve spent time getting to know your emotions—
reflecting on them, tracking patterns, even learning the language around them—
and yet…
you still find your…
What Happens When You Talk About It—But Don’t Train It
Just because you can name what you’re feeling…
Doesn’t mean you’re training something new.
Today we’re talking about something subtle—but foundational:
How the way you talk about your emotions might be reinforcing the very patterns you’re trying to change.
This matters—because your nervous system doesn’t care what you say.
It responds to what you practice.
And when language becomes a buffer, instead of a tool, it keeps emotional intensity at a distance.
Which means the emotional state…
The Calm That’s Actually Keeping You Stuck - Freeze Mode?
So here’s something most people get wrong about calm…
Just because you’re not reacting doesn’t mean you’re regulated.
You might look composed. You might even feel proud of how “still” you stayed in that conversation or situation.
But underneath?
If your mind’s still looping, your chest is tight, your breath is shallow…
That’s not calm.
That’s a pattern.
And if you’ve been training that version of calm without realizing it—
there’s a good chance it’s the very thing keeping you st…
Inspiration Isn’t a Sign—It’s a Skill
In this blog post, I want to unpack a myth that keeps so many of us stuck:
The idea that emotions should always guide what we do.
You know the one—where you’re told to “follow your feelings,” “trust your gut,” “only act when you’re inspired,” or “go with the flow.” It sounds comforting, right? Like, just wait for the stars to align or for that lightning bolt of inspiration to hit, and then everything will magically fall into place.
But here’s the thing: emotions are signals—not necessarily …
The 4 Essentials for Inner Work That Actually Shifts Your Life
Alright, so here’s the thing—when most people think about making a real shift in their lives—whether it’s feeling more grounded, handling tough conversations, or just showing up differently—they think about getting advice, reading books, or maybe hiring a coach. And that’s all great. But here’s the part most folks miss: real change doesn’t happen because we know something—it happens because we train it.
I want to talk about what that actually means—and more importantly, what it looks li…
The Recipe for Transformation
You know, after years of working with people—students, clients—who are trying to make real, lasting change, I’ve noticed a pattern. There’s this kind of recipe for transformation that keeps showing up, no matter who you are or what you’re working on.
It’s not some fancy theory or complicated process. It’s just the stuff that actually works in real life.
Today, I want to share that with you. Think of it like a warm conversation about what I’ve seen help people get unstuck, grow, and re…
How the Stories You Tell Yourself Shape Everything
Ever notice how just one little thing—a tone of voice or a quick text—can mess with your whole mood?
Like, you get a short “okay” from someone, and suddenly you’re wondering, “Did I do something wrong? Are they mad at me?”
That’s what we’re diving into today: how the way we talk to ourselves—and the stories we tell—shape how we feel and show up in the world.
Here’s the thing: if you’re not paying attention to those inner conversations, they can run the show without you even realizing it.
S…
Why It’s So Easy to Intellectualize Your Emotions (and Why That Keeps You Stuck)
Have you ever found yourself knowing exactly why you feel a certain way—but no matter how much you think about it, you just can’t seem to shift it?
Like, you’ve told yourself all the reasons why you’re angry, sad, or anxious—but that feeling still sticks around?
Maybe you’ve even read about it, journaled about it, or talked it through with a friend—yet that same feeling keeps showing up in different situations.
That’s what we’re diving into today.
What does it actually mean to intelle…